My sexual freedom doesnt give you the right to disrespect me

Many moons ago when I decided to become the boss of my sexlife, I knew it meant that in order to avoid the lows of love such as heart breaks, betrayal and deceptions of all kind, I would also have to renounce the highs of it such as the excitement of falling in love, sharing secrets, baring my soul, trusting and the magic of loving sex.
This was a conscious decision, it probably wont work for every woman but it sure works for me.
Even so, I sometimes let someone in a little too close for comfort and they always try to be the one who brings me to my knees.
Why do men always want to try to boss me around ? I have no idea nor do I even care.
They just cant stand it when they see I wont let them break me and it always end in a split.
There is a pattern emerging  which is quite interesting from an anthropological point of view and it never falters :
we meet, he is excited by my unavailability , impressed by my strength and love bombs me for days, weeks, months or even years.
I am enjoying him, loving his passion, giving all I deem givable within my limits.
Then one day he decides he should be in charge of the connection, he not me.
He tries to cajole or screw me into submission, I recognize the pattern and take my distances.
He either leaves or stays and tries to manipulate me.
This fails too and he either leaves or try to emotionally blackmails me.
Again to no avail because I rather walk away from a man I really like if he mistreats me than keep him at the risk of losing my dignity and self-respect.
If he is smart he leaves and seeks someone easier to push, if he is not..... as is the current situation, he will try and try to provoke me, insult me, seduce me and even blame me.
I want to use my sexual freedom for my own fun and to have complete control over my life most of the time. which is why I only play with people who are single. Never have I used it to harm anyone but it would appear some lunatic gave himself the right to judge me and use my freedom against me. Again with no luck.
My sexual freedom is no excuse for a man to boss me around. My sexual freedom does not mean there is a lack of dignity on my part, just a terror of being badly hurt again. My sexual freedom is not an open invitation for some Y chromosome cro magnon macho to be the boss of me.
Ladies remember, you are free to love or not love whom you please, being sexually active, players even, does not mean that men have the right to abuse you in any way.
Do we all understand each other ? cool.
Any of you with question can email me privately or leave comments.
Go have fun !