I feel so much better to be free of love !

Indeed ! Yours truely feels lighter and so very relieved to have escaped the tyrannie of love.
Since I pulled that little stunt with my german sexfriend, I have hardly given him a thought, turned him down once and had a couple of great rolls in the hay with another two newbies. I attended a festival and a few professional events, spent time with my familly and cought up on my favourite shows while my cat supported me by purring endlessly in my arms. Its so wonderful not to have a man on my mind , I have gone back to being the boss of not only my sexlife but of my life in general. Additionally I was able to concentrate on work and totally give myself to a brand new project that's very dear to me. Yes ladies... I am pleased to announce....drum rolls....that I have actually finished writing my book ! Of course the real work starts now, there is some editing to do and some administration work involved , but I will let you know how it goes. In fact , the creation and completion of a book feels almost as good as really good sex ! who knew ? I guess I must have , lol.
This week I had been thinking of Volker with very nice shag flashbacks and was tempted to call him but I resisted the urge and just pushed him out of my mind. Surprisingly , it had not been very hard to do.  Last night Volker poped in my head again and I pushed him away, I went on my balcony to do some writing when who called ? That's right.
It turns out he had been thinking of me too yesterday.
But he did not resist calling me, I told him that I too was thinking of him, he was in one of the most romantic outdoor bars of zurich and was wondering if he should come see me or not. I went cocky and said to ring twice when he will come. Did he think I would talk him into coming ? I might have if I were in love but being lovefree means he has no power over me. How cool is that ?
I quickly pimped up my bedroom and made myself pretty. My east german fuckbuddy turned up smiling and happy to see me.  I had hardly closed the door that we were making out like a teenage couple. He did his best to remind me why I like him so much. We undressed slowly as we rolled over my bed, panting and moaning. He went ballistic when he kissed my feet in their new sexy high heeled red sandals. He cupped my face and kept  kissing  me sensously while we made love three times. I felt as if I was growing wings and flying. All throughout our frolics I just kept giving my body  to Volker and avoided thinking altogether. I enjoyed every move, savoured every moment but I kept my heart to myself and did not let it take part in our sexgames.
At some point my lover came so hard he fell on top of  me and slept.  My cat jumped on the bed and Volker naturally rolled on his side to put one arm around her and one around my hips. It was so lovely to have my darling cat purring her whiskers off, comfortably between us. How can I  describe how beautiful this felt ?  Yet I kept my focus of not losing my heart to him  instead  I have reached a point where I can fully participate in the joy of talking to him, laughing with him, climaxing with him even sleeping with him while my cat purrs in his arms.  I can melt with Volker without falling desperately in love with him. All the best of loving someone without the pains of it. Since Im not constantly analysing what he says or what he does, I can relax and be my cheery smily self and that reminds him why he was attracted to me in the first place.
When he went home at 2am , we kissed endlessly by the door, in front of the lift and on top of the stairs. He had a hard time unglueing  himself off my body. I watched him walk down the street and he was practically dancing ! So cute ! Im so pleased to have all this without enduring love.

Positions......my favourite

My favourite postion is the time honoured missionary, Im on my back and he is on top of me, this is great because we can look at each other, we can kiss and we can touch while making love. I just love it.
I also like it on the side and I go wild when we do the rocking boat thing.
But my number one is him on top of me.

Because of watching too many porn movies and not shagging enough real people, a lot of men imagine that sex is about fitting in as many acrobatic and uncomfortable positions as fast as possible within 10 minutes, silly I know.

Im not saying we gotto do only the position I like and never experiment any other, im saying this is not a competition.
Sex is give and take, not a porn show.

I really dont like the doggy position, I hardly feel a thing, most men take advantage of this to slap my bum and I cant even see my lover's face or touch him. Of course when a lover is really nice to me and has been doing my favourite positions  for a while before he asks me to turn around, then Ill be happy to oblige, considering he deserves it and I will give him his doggy style.
If he really is good , sensual, cuddly, creative, if he drives me wild with desire, if he is the kind of man that has me scream his name and want more and more of it , Specially if he whispers cheekily .....Gira ti, turn around, retourne toi.....da la vuelta mi amor.


Ladies, if your new man  just grabs your head and pulls it to his dick demanding a blow job right after a kiss without even turning you on first then you know you are on to a  a selfish and uncompetent time waster. Worse even if he shags you for 5 minutes and turns you around for doggy position then you definitely got a loser there and you might as well drop the idiot there and then.
Because a guy who treats you like that on a first date will never make love to you , he will just take and take without even the courtesy of giving you an orgasm or two.
The whole point of having sex is indeed to come, right ?
I remember Justin, a hot black londoner who had shagged me almost an hour before he nearly pleaded for me to give him his doggy fashion.... and I did because I came a couple of times  already and thought I might as well reward him. Why do men love that position so much anyway ?
It looks like something one could do with a german shepard.

I remember Mehmet a really cute guy to whom I patiently explained why he musnt jump on me, why he should take his time with sex and never ever treat me like a rug doll changing positions so often I couldnt even come ! Twice.
I explained it to him twice, and yet he didnt get it, although he promissed not to do that again.
Because he was really hot I gave him 3 chances and the third time he had my legs around my neck then around his neck then up in the air then when put me on my knees.... I just walked out.
Was the dude not listening at all or did he just not care ?
I jumped out of his bed and asked if he had gone to stupid school or if it came to him naturally ?
C-I told you I hate it when u do acrobatics with my body ! I dont even have time to come ! what is wrong with you ?
M- But I like to change positions often .....
C- Then I suggest you change woman.
M- Whaddaya mean change woman ? I ve never had a complaint before.
C- Yeah, I bet you never kept a lover more than 5 minutes either.
M- Bitch who do you think you are ?
C- Im a woman and I deserves lovers who will give me real sex, not fake porn like im a rug doll or something !

As we were yelling at each other, I discretly got dressed and run out of the door. I actually run, in high heels, to the nearest taxi rank.

I would have avoided this embarrassment if I had listened to my instinct and dropped the S.O.B. after the first encounter. So ladies dont do what I did, if he treats your body like a sex toy and does not concern himself  with your pleasure..... Dont call him  back and dont take his calls ever again.
Go find yourself a real man who wants to make love and see the woman in his arms twist and turn and shake with an earth shattering orgasms.

no sex for 3 weeks

I love sex, im like Samantha from sex and the city minus the money and the cocktails. However l sometimes dont feel like it and prior to my tantra guy from saturday l had even turned down sex twice and remained sexfree for 3 weeks.
The thing is, having sex is my free choice, therefore not having sex or when to have it , is my choice too. I am soooo bored with the same guys hitting on me again and again, crasy Djamel keeps calling even when i dont pick up, then it is Djawad, then it is Dylan and his stupic clumsy innunendos that dont even turn me on anymore, worse even guys who dont stand a single chance and think im not understanding what they want. Grrrr.
Are they all ganging up to annoy me or could it be that i slept with the whole town and there is nothing new to discover ?
All i know is im bored with the same blokes , i would like something NEW ! something exciting, is it really too much to ask ?
there is only one man on the planet for whom l would make an exception and thats not gonna happen because he is blocked in a situation and after 15 years we are still not ready to make idle talk with each other.
Dont bother looking for him in my gallery, he is not here, I dont play around with the men l actually love. So you wont find him or my ex husbands here.


Anyway, having sex should be a moment of relaxation at the worse, and of magic at the best. Therefore l prefer no sex than having bad sex or boring sex.
Everywomen should share their bodies with people they want at the time they want them because to have sex  against your will is pretty ugly. Giving sex just out of pity is pathetic and giving sex out of pressure or emotional blackmail is humiliating and guess what it never works.


So next time a guy implies that if you dont sleep with him he will break up with you or go seek it elsewhere........you might as well tell him to fxxx himself because a guy who talks to you like that will be doing this anyway.

To f**** or not to f*** that is the question !

I was relaxing at home with a good book and my cat sleeping on my feet when this hottie called me, he was in town, would l like to meet him for a drink ? ( which translated means : Im so horny for you today, can we fuck ?). However l wasnt in the mood, got laid a couple of days ago anyway, so l turned him down and asked him to call another time cause l was busy. I know....l know i told a little fib. But the point is : I am only gonna have sex when l want to, not because an occasion turns up, if im not aroused, if im not doing the chase, if am not stimulated in any way, im not gonna do it just to please some guy. My sexual freedom also includes my right to chose when and with whom and how.In a relationship or a marriage you sometimes have to give in and fake, we all go through this at somme point. Hell no ! not me. The point of remaining single is to not be submitted to such things. Yay for singlehood ! I truely dont know what Bridget Jones keeps whining about.