Good sex burns calories !!!!!

This morning as I planned my day , i was scheduling 1 hour at the gym in between clients and a lunch date with  Igor. My son poped in to show me that he had his wisdom teeth taken out and was grogy from the anasthetics,  we had a chat till he went back home to relax.
I thought I would have my gym hour right after my date but then  Igor arrived, quite sexy in casual chic clothing, and we had a fabulous romp !
Talk about getting wood !
Kisses, french kisses,tenderness, sexyness, touching, caressing, humping, oral pleasuring, more humping, more kissing, fluid bonding, more humping, more, more and more humping !
After climaxing , he held me in his arms and cuddled up for a while.


I must admit that was nice, cuddling up and talking after a great steamy session like that.  Igor went back to work and I had some filing to do in my office.
However I cant pick myself up to hit the gym now, im too  achy and high !


And I dont need to anyway because i lost as many calories as if I had run for an hour or swimmed for 2 hours, yes indeed good sex burns as much calories as sport if not more. Perhaps if I didnt love eating so much I would be slim from all this calorie burning sex, but I love eating as much as I love sex therefore....
Besides life is too short to deprive ourselves from too much pleasure !

Paddy, smart and sexy.

Paddy is a biracial man who created  his own internet job, selling web tools and informatic advice. He is articulate, smart, educated, good looking and charming.
He does a lot of sport and is quite the goalie too. Paddy does voluntary work and served humanitary missions in a few countries.
 And he....... is in an electric wheelchair.


I met Paddy (name changed) a year ago during a seminar. It was about coaching sport activities for the physically handicapped, Paddy was one of the disabled attendings. His is a  heavy handicap , something similar to   Nick Vujicic`disability  ( which didnt stop Nick from becoming a world known motivational speaker). Sometimes you look at someone in a wheel chair and you feel  sorry for them, but when you look at Paddy you dont feel sorry at all, he projects such strength, confidance and intelligence that you dont see the chair and the  short limbs after a while. I rang him about some  disabled sport event  we were  serving on in Geneva and he said he was coming to teach disabled kids to sail.
I had lunch with him and his sailing team and after my service I went to the peer for my very first sailing experience ! it was great !
Paddy was handling the joystick and the ropes to move the sails while I didnt have a clue about what to do.  We had so much fun, it lasted an hour but it felt more like 5 minutes. I could talk to him for hours and we do agree on a lot of important topics.
I couldnt help but admire Paddy's dexterity, when we went back to the shore we hit a local pub for a drink and we had quite a conversation, he is really knowledged on many subjects and very cultivated , with a solid sense of humor. His team joined us and I had  a really good time. I asked him to drive me back to the Geneva's train station and not only does he have a nice big car, with an adapted wheel that he can operate , but he can do everything himself ! I watched him open his car boot , fold his chair, put it in his car, close it and get on his car sit, put on his sit belt and.... drive ! amazing how independant and strong he is !
there was more excitment  in hanging out with Paddy that in shagging some people I could think of.

Im complex and compelling, aint we all ?

Yes , I need to be alone sometimes, without wanting to cruise or score or party or whatever. Sometimes it is nice to just sit in a bubble bath or on my couch with either the tv on or some candlelights, listening to wonderfull music, right now im lost into Vide Cor Meum.
My son picked up our  cat to babysit her this weekend because ill be in Geneva  doing volontary work till saturday night. I miss my cat already but i know she loves my son and so does he.
I bet you didnt think a sex queen like me was capable of generosity, abnegation and compassion. Well i am.
Its important to know that a woman can be 
Liberated, free and yet maternal and loving.
Crazy, fun loving yet responsible and dependable.
Sexual, physical,  yet Church going and scriptures reading.
Unfaithfully bed hoping but fiercely loyal in friendship.
Tough but charitable
Cynical but hopefull.


So i guess im a complex woman but im pretty sure most of us are several women in one and it is perfectly ok to show different people differant aspect of our personality.It is apropriate to enjoy each moment of happyness life has to offer us, whatever it is, however small or important.
Enjoy every single moment of joy you can, be it looking at some delicate roses, eating some yummie foreign food, laughing hard with your friends, cuddling with an animal, having fabulous sex with a gorgeous stranger, reading a wonderfull book or watching your children grow into descent independant strong adults. Enjoy every single moment of happyness that you can because ........we have no idea how long it will last and how many more of those moments happyness life will be giving us.

Dirty sexy hot Igor

After having to turn  Igor down twice last week because of prior engagements I was happy that we both had tonight free.
Igor is the king of hot dirty sex , I mean that in the nicest possible way. And I have been looking forward to it all day. We were at it like crazy, talk about getting wood ! we were humping and kissing and all sort of ing when I started having flash backs of saturday night with Martin that 29 year old easter german.
Igor was kissing me up and down, pounding away, kissing again, humping again, suddenly I closed my eyes and tried to recreate Martin's kisses, his touch, his hands, his gentleness and his romantism.
Why would I even think of that in the middle of exceptional toe curling sex with a man who has wood from the minute he walks trough my door till the time he gets back into the lift ?
Maybe it was too soon, perhaps  I should have basked in saturday's delights a bit longer.
That is another power we women have, a man couldnt carry on shagging whilst thinking of something else, it would alter his moves altogether, we can even do grocery list while we have sex and the guy wont know any better.
I felt a bit embarrassed about thinking of Martin when  Igor was really putting a lot of effort into pleasing me so I focused on him and the magic happen, it was so good it felt as if my blood was liquid fire and I was a tornado. like waves rushing up and down my back and my feet !
Exceptional ! I  told him, sensational ! he answered. In that weird swiss german dialect....stoss mi ä.... Hmm I love stossing you dont worry.


Afterwards, we are laying there and he is talking about how fantastic it was and I'm going along with it, whilst wondering why I had even had those flash backs of Martin.
As he was ready to leave we made some small talk and feasted on those wonderful posh truffles he had brought, when my cat comes in to say hello.
I think he didnt fuss enough over her, she had to come real close for him to stroke her face, tss tss tss.
aha ! I found something dislikable about the king of wood ! lol

Martin was sooo romantic !

Got him last night ! yoohoo !
Martin  just rang out of the blue to say he was in my neighbourhood and wanted the house number. Oops ! within 10 minutes I showered ,got changed, tidied up my living room, fed my cat, brushed my teeth, hid my plate of spaghettis in the fridge and opened the door looking relaxed and confidant to a smiling Martin who wore a * I am gonna get a great fuck* look on his face.
I made some coffee and we talked, I think it was a little strange that he followed me to the kitchen as I made coffee, but I am letting go of that for now.
As I suspected he is German, worse even , he is east German ! Aww man !
And thats not all..i thought he was 35 and he is actually 29 ! 29 years old for crying outloud ! I told him I am 20 years older than he is and it didnt stop him at all, asking me if it is really an issue, I decided it is not. 
No one will know and we are not gonna get involved  anyway so who cares ?
At first we made a lot of small talk, he went to smoke on the balcony while I put a dvd of the Simpsons on, I joined him on the balcony and we stared at each other in the moonlight for a while till I said this is the perfect time to kiss.  Martin looked at me all seriously, took a step closer, cupped my face in his long pale skinny hands and began kissing me.
And boy can he kiss !
We kissed and kissed and kissed on my balcony, I wonder if my idiotic  voyeur neighbour was watching. We kissed some more. We went back inside, he was kissing my neck as we fell on the bed. I told him we need to use condoms and he produced  an entire box he had in his pocket!
At last a clever boy !
So we are in bed, everything is wonderful......there is a lot of kissing and touching going on....more kissing and cuddling...ok but now I want more so I go a couple of step further and treat him to a fantastic blow job that he loved so much he...came !
Ok I hid my disappointment and kissed  him some more, he responded with tons of cuddling and necking and kissing, fine.
Martin didnt achieve wood.... didnt even make any silly comments or excuses, he just remarked that it was bloody inconvenient, thats all , just bloody inconvenient ! lol
Still , the whole thing felt as if we were making love, all the components were there, holding me , cupping my face, kissing me all over, looking into my eyes, moaning, sighing. He is very sensuous, he enjoys being touched and voices what he feels, this is very sexy to me.
So we are spooning and groping each other but he still doesn't  get hard !
After a while I decided that he is so good at everything else he does that I will just enjoy this weird non coital love making. I will just pretend we are lesbian lovers.
And we carried on making love like this for about 2 hours, he said I am insatiable, lol, I answered I am when something is so wonderful.
I wish more men would remember to cuddle during sex, like Martin does, or maybe they dont bother because they got wood  and they are too busy pounding away to remember tenderness and sensuality.
I dont know what is best, the crasy pounding or the long pleasure of making love without an erection.
hmmm I suppose I am just gonna have to keep dating lots of different guys so that I can experience all of it. Yum.
On a funny note, I discovered , just in time, a text from my daughter saying she was coming over  at 1am to sleep here  after a concert. I explained this to Martin  who still took his time to shower and dress but he left on time after kissing me a million time more, mmmm
By the time my daughter arrived, 10 minutes later, I had aired the room, changed  the bedding, washed my hair, showered and got into a nightie.
That was the most romantic date in the history of romantic dates !
Martin is welcomed to watch the Simpsons with me again anytime, lol.
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The hot eastern german

Yours truely  was working in the center today, when i got a couple of saucy texts from  Igor about how he would love to push me against a wall and..and...and.... But ! he has got his little boy  this week end.
( Why did the plonker flirt with me then ? )
Nuff said. not gonna happen tonight.

But now im on fire after having re read the explicit details of what  Igor is dreaming of  doing to my body.  what shall i do ? shall i call Mark  who poped in to say hi yesterday ? oh no too soon. shall i answer Djamel when he keeps calling like a mad man ? nah.
I know ! I want something new !
suddenly.. .. in walks this customer, taking  ages to peruse trough different products. I had noticed him before, even though he is not my style.
Volker  is white, tall, skinny  and probably german though Im not sure.
He has got smiling eyes, a shag me smile and is quite soft spoken and good mannered, which makes me wonder for a moment if this hottie might be gay ,lol.
All the same. I went over and chatted him up, I noticed he sounded quite educated and wore a  painter`s uniform, said he rather have a real conversation than endless internet chatting.
The cute german from the east  was shocked to hear im nearly 50 and said he loves cosy evenings  in front of a movie, oh yeah ? ill movie YOU mate.
Since he was making eyes at me and talking in a sexy Falco-like tone of voice,  I mentioned casually he might wanna  call to ask me out, which led to my giving him my number !!!!
He remarked he didnt know my name so I held my hand out whilst saying it and he............ kissed my hand !!!!

Hmm it had been a while since someone had done that..... I may have blushed from surprise and even more when i told him to leave cos i had to close up and he kissed my hand again !!!
Wow !  does that mean he likes to kiss ? and how much of a good kisser is he ? Man I love seducing someone new ! the anticipating is so sexy !! Ill let you know how it goes after i put his body on fire !!!!!

Women have the power and dont know it

Conventions and religions have us convinced from a young age that we must be someone's wife or girlfriend if our life is ever to be worse living.
This major nonsense was  probably promoted by men themselves to keep us from knowing our power and our worth.
In the same way karnacks stop elephants from realising how strong and powerfull they really are, so that they can use them as servants , this is exactly what men have been doing to us since stone age.

How is it that beeings capable of creating life and nurture it for years, creatures who possess logic and feminine intuition, who are capable of handling  running a household, raising children, councelling everyone AND working, not to mention multiorgasming and  dayly multitasking  ................ how did  monotasked,+easily overwhelmed +short spaned attention men managed to make us feel that we were weaker that them in most ways ? up to the point that we are not complete without one of them when it is fine for them to be serial lovers without ever beeing someone's husband !
Well that is untill they get old and tired of having to  work hard to get laid, then they settle.

How did men ever made us believe that we are on earth to serve them ? HOW ?
Talk about the dark con of man !

In certain cultures they misuse religions to dominate us, in some other they just use plain and legal terror. Others play women against each other for their benefit. All cultures play down how important our part in mankind is.
In the free world , men control us by blackmailing our feelings, constantly threatening to take their " love " away and publicly humiliate us in messy divorces, ugly custody battles and having affairs with women who are used for men's purpose without even knowing it.

Judeo Christianism has us firmly believe that nice girls dont like sex, sex is for sluts and boys dont marry sexual girls. Dont you see this is all designed to restrain women from discovering how empowering sexual pleasure is ?????

when you discover that you can achieve sexual pleasure with any men or girl, you realise that this power comes from you, from you not from your man. So next time he is arrogant and refuses you tenderness or  sex in the hope that you will be suffering in silence wondering how to seduce him back, you can tell him to jump in the lake because you know you have access to sex anytime with anyone you chose.
When you have this knowledge you are no longer afraid of men, specially not of your own man.
It took me years to find that out ! the thing about the one, waiting for a one night stand to call back , waiting for him to make the first move  and all this nonsense that promotes man domination  is only taught to us so that we dont take charge of our love lives and hand it over to men so that they can trash it at will.
 When you are smart enough to separate love and sex you can actually have both any time !!
We all have moment of weakness, even samantha of sex and the city falls in love sometimes, even Shane of the L word does ! the differance is with the knowledge that we are the stronger ones, the providers, the smarts ones and the sexual ones.... we are no longer vulnerable to this ugly love blackmail.

Thats why men call liberated women like yours truely  by some rude names, so that most women will be afraid to be branded a slut or a whore, therefore they remain victims of men. I would rather be called a B.... and a W.... than fall victim to a man again who will abuse my trust or my vulnurability.

I dont actually despise men, i even have some good friends who are men, I just refuse their dominion altogether, thats all.
My dating behaviour may be a little unusual but it gives me total freedom and control , im grateful for this.

Is doing married men wrong ? (when they lie about it )

First of all let me start by saying proudly that i have never stolen a man from another woman, i have never broken a relationship or a marriage up and i have never ever told a man to chose between "her" and me. Never.
It has been done to me a couple of times but i didnt even retaliate, hurt as i was.


Now that im a mature and confidant woman who knows what i want and what i dont want, i do find that seeing men who are engaged in a serious relationships makes things much easier for me. why ?
Because :
They dont stay the night, they dont make demands, they cant express jaelousy, they cant only take what i give them and shut up about it, they cant harass me for kids or non sexual quality times or coming out of the closet, and they cannot demand exclusivity since they are themselves cheaters and liars.
The deal is very clear. Of course there are some stupid , gullible women who will give their married lovers exclusivity even though he doesnt care , in the hope he will break up his marriage, That never works.
Married men only divorce if the mistress is much younger and /has money / has connections /gets pregnant.
Anyway, back to me. taken men are conveniant for me, as long as they dont realise they are, because men are so selfish and so arrogant they always want to be sure that they are running the show. When they do realise it is I who take charge they either try to change my mind or they leave, too bad !


My daughter once lashed at me for dating married men, she thinks i should respect the property of another woman, never mind  how conveniant i find it.
What my beautifull and very smart daughter doesnt know yet is that even if I did that.......most men lie anyway about being available !


Igor B only told me about his girlfriend after a couple of  hot hours of crazy shagging.
Mark  E only told me he was married after 3  dates.
A friend of mine found out after several months that her lover had a wife and 3 kids.
And what about the age old classic married men line of chatter ? I dont touch my wife anymore/ I only stay because of the children / she has all the money/ and : we have an open relationship !!!!!
Men lie, they lie all the time, why do they lie ? who cares? but they do lie and my way to navigate trough men's lies is to not care about them at all.


this morning i received a lovely very romantic email fro Dietlief  B. a handsome young doctor whom i met completely by chance. Dietlief has been hitting on me on and off quite discretly all summer, i was open and friendly but he is too shy to really attack and i didnt either because Dietlief is not my type at all, too intelligent, too academic, too descent. I prefer my lovers brainless and clueless, its much easier to manipulate.
So imagine my surprise when i read this lovely email from him calling me a ray of sunshine, sweet and sexy, ( aww how nice) and how he would love a koffee with me and so on ......... BUT he is already bound to somenone so it cant happen ! however a koffee would not mean any harm right ?
VOILA ! This is a perfect exemple a married man scaming ! Dude u dont wear a ring but  u have no business hitting on me romantically if u are taken ! and as to how he formulated the whole thing that the married man code for : i told u im taken but if u want to see me anyway be warned it cannot go beyond what I want. 


I get this clearly but i cant imagine how many unsuspecting women will fall for this old trick.!!!!!


I  suppose my daughter would blame me for that too or would she blame dietlief for coming on to me while covering his ass ????????